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Sucking the joy out of hobbies

When I was younger, I had this problem where I only liked doing hobbies or activities that I was naturally good at. Any time I found learning something new difficult, I would feel uneasy and stop completely. This led to me only sticking with the things I could do well right off the bat and not trying a lot of things that I probably would have enjoyed.

I recognized this tendency a long time ago and I started working on getting better with learning something over time. I remember I chose to play Mario Maker because I was bad at it and I accepted that it would take time to learn. That was positive growth, I think.

Now, I have a new and, I think, related problem. When I pick up a new hobby, as a good little autist, I dive directly into the deep end. I immediately find the extremest practitioners of that hobby and decide I must emulate them. I do this even if the way they enjoy the hobby looks very tedious and unpleasant. I think I want to jump in quickly to prove how good I am at learning something new. Then I immediately burn out on the hobby and never pick it up again.

Recently, I started doing puzzles. I never really cared for puzzles growing up. I wasn't good at them so I rejected them. When I did my first 500 piece puzzle, I enjoyed it. I found it relaxing. Did I do another 500 piece puzzle? No. I found the hardest puzzles I could find and stalled out trying to finish something that wasn't really fun anymore.

Yesterday, I got my second 500 piece puzzle. I'm taking it as a win.